To Love or not to

Can't really figure out which is more scary. When you love, you risk getting hurt cuz you're investing feelings and emotions in another person. You begin to expect.... and with expectation comes disappointment cuz no one is perfect.Love is something we have to work at. It does not come easy...like all the best things in life. We've been brought up on illusions of love, a romantic fairytailish description..where everything ends happily ever after...The truth is there is no happily ever after. There will always be hiccups in everything that we do simply cuz we're not perfect. In spite of this we expect a love that's perfect without blemish...come on ...that can only be in the soppy romance movies....And oh yeah...when it gets too difficult, we can just bail out...run away before it gets too messy, before we're too entangled, before we really begin to care, before we're actually asked to make some compromises....worse still before we feel ourselves wanting to make em.Commitment is something that scares us so bad...but I've always wondered whether we're scared of giving that person a chance or whether we're scared of losing something that we don't even have yet...On the other end of the spectrum, if we choose not to love at all becuz we are too scared, we run the risk of being alone which is everyones worst nightmare...no matter how much some of us may try to deny this...it is true.We need to love, we need people to care...we need someone to lean on , someone to cherish us and to push us to be our best selves...Caught between the devil n the deep blue sea!!!!! as one of my psychology teachers used to say....